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Moving On: Tips for a Fresh Start After Losing a Loved One

Moving On: Tips for a Fresh Start After Losing a Loved One

Losing someone you love means life changes completely.For some people, making a new start is part of the healing process.If you decide a change of scenery is in order, take this advice for making the transition smoothly.

Sorting Belongings: Before you are ready to sell your home, you’ll need to clean out your departed’s belongings. Cleaning out your loved one’s closet and personal items can be an emotional roller coaster, bringing up painful moments, as well as smiles and laughter.Having a close friend or family member to share the process can help.You can sort items into three categories, including things you will donate, things you will throw away, and things you will keep. Label your boxes clearly and store them in an organized manner as you go.If there are items you want to remember but can’t keep, take photos of them. Consider creating a keepsake box so your most personal treasures stay with you into your new home.

You may want family members to participate in the process of sorting some belongings. After all, it’s possible others may want some keepsakes from your loved one’s life. SAGA suggests that if there are any disagreements, set the items aside and come back to them. You may decide to sell some things.If there are items of significant value, hire a professional to appraise them. Discuss how you will handle any sharing of funds from the sale ahead of time.

Home buying and selling: This may be the first time you bought or sold a home without your partner. You can manage the process successfully with some basic strategies. Consumer Reports suggests these tips for home buying and selling:

  • Buying - Decide how much you can afford to spend on a home by weighing your income, down payment amount, and your other monthly financial obligations. Evaluate your credit and clean up any errors or issues. Get pre-approved by a lender for your new home purchase and prepare to negotiate your purchase with a larger down payment or cash offer.
  • Selling - Fix any damage or maintenance items on your home before you list it for sale. Do some depersonalizing and decluttering so you can present your home well to potential buyers. Pare down what is on display both in rooms and in on-site storage to make your home appear as spacious as possible. Clean your home thoroughly, ensuring you deodorize pet smells, shampoo rugs and carpeting, and replace any burned-out light bulbs.

Planning your move: Preparing for a move takes time, and it’s best to do the work over a period of several weeks. HomeAdvisor recommends careful planning and following a four-week moving timeline. By setting a schedule and sticking to it, you will be able to stay organized and move more efficiently.

Start with gathering your supplies, including clean boxes, tape, labels, and bubble wrap, and create a packing station for your convenience. Pack the items you know you won’t use first, such as off-season clothing, and go room to room. Keep records of what you pack and mark boxes on at least two sides as you go. Aim for effective packing techniques to facilitate the process. Consider taking photos of anything complicated you might not remember, such as how a media center is set up or how your bookshelf is arranged. Remember the moving process is tiring, and you have already been through a lot. You may need to hire help, and whether it’s a professional organizer or moving company, be sure to do so in advance.

Your new beginning: Starting over after losing a loved one is challenging. Your life will never be the same, but a fresh start may be in order.With some preparations and planning you can manage the transition and begin again.


Article written by Lucille Rosetti, Author of “Life After Death: A Wellness Guide for the Bereaved” which you can purchase in spring of 2018 here: http://thebereaved.org/book/